Growing Up In The Workplace Frustration

In the sky of the workplace, frustration is like a dark cloud, which is constantly in the mind. But we all have this experience. When the plane passes through the clouds, the sky is always blue, blue and clear. That's the reality of life. Dark clouds may stay for a while or even cover up the sun, but all dark clouds will not change the pure nature of the sky.

To cross the dark clouds, the first thing we need to do is to see what causes it. Frustration 。

In psychology, frustration is caused by setbacks. It refers to a psychological feeling that individuals encounter obstacles and interference in meeting activities of need, which makes individual motivation impossible and personal needs can not be satisfied. In short, the essence of frustration is actually the gap between people's psychological feelings and the reality.

When Xiao Li graduated from University, he entered a company. He was down-to-earth, rigorous and conscientious. He soon got the favor of his boss, worked for two years, became a manager, and his direct supervisor became general manager. But the general manager is very serious and very picky. He works under his hands. He is especially depressed. Just like a headhunter is looking for him, his salary has doubled.

What I didn't expect was Xiao Li. Boss The company has gone from bad to worse, and the promised salary is not in place. At that time, the former colleague found Xiao Li. After he left, the boss often praised Xiao Li in front of other colleagues. After a series of twists and turns, he returned to his former company's original position. Of course, unfortunately, the boss is still the original temper, he can criticize and criticize him. One thing is obviously not his responsibility in Xiao Li's eyes. He should be criticized by the general manager. "You really don't think this thing very carefully. Fortunately, let me remind you." Xiao Li felt very depressed and frustrated. Did he leave or not? That's a real problem.

Obviously, Xiao Li's expectation is that the leader can praise him more and affirm him, while the leader's expectation is that Xiao Li's work is more perfect. As a result, both expectations were lost. Especially for Xiao Li, he felt more strongly about the gap between expectation and reality, and there was a sense of frustration.

There are many more examples. Layoffs And you may be in the list; every day you work hard, and your leaders do not complain about your work at all times, but the end of the year is only "medium". Although you have done a lot of work, you still can not meet the requirements of the leadership. After a lot of work, you still feel dissatisfied and have never been able to find a job that is really suitable for you.

Faced with the same setbacks, why are some people immersed in complaining, while others can quickly get out of their predicament? Calm down and think about it, we all have our own goals or expectations, and we all hope for more success. As the saying goes, "the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment." In fact, the greater the psychological gap between success and failure, the more difficult it is for failure, and the more frustrated and frustrated it will be. Of course, there are some ways to help us adjust our mental state to cope with "frustration".